By: Todd Wheatley
(c) IQ-2k   02-04-14

Demographics show that people (in the developed world) are living longer while health studies show that people are also maintaining their youth longer. Yet given the recency of this phenomena it's hard to know if there has been a corresponding psychological adaptation. Has our brain caught up with our body to evaluate our true age?

Just think of the change this represents. From our youth we recognized people over 50 as being, well, -- OLD --. We did not grow up with grandparents who had plastic surgery to defy the effects of aging and we certainly did not think about them having sex. But that was then.

Today children do not seem to be (mentally) aging as fast as generations past and the term "kid-ult" has gained wide acceptance. Their brains will not experience the same difficulty. Put plainly, a new era has begun. Today our grandchildren will see a great many "old" people who look relatively young as result of better care, plastic surgery, or vigorous physical activity. But let's not beat around the bush. We are those "old" people!

But are we really old? A large consensus would say, NO! Still this is the psychological adaptation that we must make. Consequently it would seem that our generation has been tasked with redefining age and part of that means .... SEX.

Historically people over 50 lost their youth and undertook the more conservative role of grandparent. Devoid of sexual activity. Unfortunately women continue to bear a much heavier burden than do men both physiologically and mentally. So even though we are more physically fit than our grandparents the "change of life", as it is often called, marks the end of a woman's reproductive life and all too often it also marks the precipitous downslope of her sex life.

Many reports blame the loss of female sex drive on rapidly changing hormones. It's very likely, however, that menopause triggers a psychological response that lowers the libido. Therefore some countermeasure (other than hormone therapy) could prevent the onset of "psychological old age" especially where sex is concern.

That's the quandary of our generation ... physically fit and an eroding sex life ... fortunately it doesn't have to be that way.

But remember it takes two to tango and as previously eluded -- men are the "lucky" ones. Two decade ago Viagra cured the physiological impairment some men experience. Though it should be noted that the "mechanics" of sex remains separate from the psychological component. So even when "everything" is working (with men & women) psychological factors can impede sexual relations.

But why is this important?

Up to now sex has played a major role in our life. So given its absence problems may begin to arise. Perhaps even a break up in the family. Moreover sex has been a defining characteristic of age since the beginning of time. That, however, will not be the case for much longer given the decreasing age of menstruation in girls and the general sexualization of society as a whole. Again, we are the change generation. Those who can not mentally adapt will find "age" an increasingly difficult thing to accept.

Now consider the MIND-BODY connection. Maintaining a healthy sex life into the "golden years" should be considered paramount towards quality of life. Not only does sex reduce stress hormones it will help foster an environment of youth and redefine age as we know it. So forget couples therapy and try some of the more procative movies to get your blood pumping again.

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by: Todd Wheatley
(c) IQ-2k   10-04-15

Let me be clear -- the path I am suggesting seeks to aide COUPLES 50 AND OVER who may be experiencing a lower libido as a result of chemical and hormonal changes. Other physiological complications may contribute to a lower sex drive, but more universally a decrease in hormone production over time can lead to psychological difficulties which manifest as a lack of sex drive. And while some may dismiss sex as an activity of youth the reality is that sex and intimacy among couples are closely linked. Therefore a decrease in sexual activity generally leads to a decrease in intimacy and closeness.

Big troubles often arise when one partner experiences a much lower libido than the other. The resulting sexual stress then acts as a catalyst for other problems. However it should be noted that couples who have already drifted apart for other reasons need to address those issues first. Then after all stress related factors have been eliminated and your sex drive does not return you need to address your body�s hormonal balance and in that regard exercise is far and away the best option. Understandably time constraints and other limiting factors keep many people from the kind of vigorous physical activity needed to get the hormones flowing again. The body does after all slow down with age.

Consequently direct brain stimulation should temporarily reverse negative hormonal influences to restart your libido. This is most easily achieved through the visual cortex ... watching "movies" ... I would recommend the following cable series: "Californication", "True Blood", "Masters of Sex", "Hung", "Spartacus", "Black Sails", "Rome", "Game of Thrones", "Penny Dreadful", or "Da Vinci's Demons". My wife and I found "Nip/Tuck" stimulating despite being substantially more tame than those previously mentioned. In addition "Sex in the City" and "Girls" are a good option. Though not all men are adequately evolved to watch chick oriented stories. So here lies our quandary. Men want more sex and women more story. Finding a happy medium can be difficult. Even still restarting a physical relationship may bring the intimacy required to fix other problems.

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